Sexual Harassment Against Males2(By Females3) Exposed! is about the sexual impact on males of sexually provocative female practices and presentations that are overt and in plain sight to males, but hidden in plain sight, overtly overlooked, and ignominiously ignored by females.
As we will demonstrate, males are regularly and routinely the objects of sexual harassment by the female gender every day and in many worrisome ways. We document the who, what, when, where, why, and how this sexual harassment against males by females occurs and what females need to do to stop sexually harassing males.
Numerous volumes have been written on the history of the public undressing of women. Some have surmised that it all began in a woman’s bedroom with the underclothing of a bra and girdle. Some of the chroniclers of fashion say that female fashions first migrated from the bedroom to the beach. At the beach the women’s swimsuits obviously evolved from barely any skin showing to revealing more nudity inch by inch. All agree that Hollywood, through its movies, was a major influence in the early denuding of the female body, followed by television, and all the other media and print portrayals.
Many sources concurrently set the standards for the female fashion freedoms. It is not our intention to trace the entire history of the public undressing of females. Instead, we will describe what current female fashions are worn by females who are sexually harassing males and leave the extensive historical panorama that preceded the present parade of pulchritude to others….
Central to the subject of S.H.A.M.E! and key to exposing the source of the sexual harassment is sexual objectification, which is a combination of sexualization of women and the subsequent objectification of them. As we use the expression “sexual objectification,” we are referring to the act of treating females solely or primarily as objects of male sexual desires, rather than as whole persons—fellow human beings.
Sexy body displays lead men to objectify females and, therefore, fail to see them as whole persons. Male brains are hard-wired to see sexy females as sex objects. Therefore, when females make themselves look sexy, males will objectify them. All females need to be aware of a certain formula, which is this: the sexier you look, the more a male will objectify you.
Not only do men see sexy-looking women as objects; they visually dissect them into separate body parts, particularly the sexually appealing ones. According to LiveScience, the “Brain Sees Men as Whole, Women as Parts.”
A glimpse at the magazine rack in any supermarket checkout line will tell you that women are frequently the focus of sexual objectification. Now, new research finds that the brain actually processes images of women differently than those of men, contributing to this trend.
Women are more likely to be picked apart by the brain and seen as parts rather than a whole, according to research published online June 29 in the European Journal of Social Psychology. Men, on the other hand, are processed as a whole rather than the sum of their parts.
“Everyday, ordinary women are being reduced to their sexual body parts,” said study author Sarah Gervais, a psychologist at the University of Nebraska, Lincoln. “This isn’t just something that supermodels or porn stars have to deal with.”4
The Male Gaze
When females sexually display their bodies, men will be inclined to gaze at them as sex objects.
The “male gaze” invokes the sexual politics of the gaze and suggests a sexualised way of looking that empowers men and objectifies women. In the male gaze, woman is visually positioned as an “object” of heterosexual male desire. Her feelings, thoughts and her own sexual drives are less important than her being “framed” by male desire.5
The media has capitalized on the “man trance” and the “male gaze,” and women have been the losers. As females expose their bodies in sexually erotic ways that attract and engage the “man trance” or the “male gaze,” they are placing themselves in a one-down position in relation to their male viewers, who from a one-up position are drawn to objectify them. The sexy look triggers the man trance, the male gaze, and the sexual objectification that follows….
As females have fallen for the sexy look, either naively or knowingly, they have made themselves sexual objects in male eyes. They have fallen into the trap of sexualization. We use the following definition of the adjective sexual, which is “relating to instincts, physiological processes, and activities connected with physical attraction.” Additionally, we define sexy as “Sexually suggestive or stimulating: erotic.” Sexy can also mean “seductive.” The verb sexualize means “make sexual; attribute sex or a sex role to.”6 Thus the noun sexualization would be “the act of sexualizing someone” or “seeing someone in sexual terms,” as in the sexualization of the female body.7
Whether adjective, verb, or noun, the above terms are usually pejorative when they are used to describe their use in revealing the media’s ubiquitous influence on women. Sexualization is thus linked to “sexual objectification.” When a female is sexualized, she is objectified: seen and regarded as a sex object and evaluated in terms of her physical characteristics. Thus, sexy-looking females are naively or knowingly contributing to the sexualization and objectification of females in general. Rather than females being seen and evaluated according to who they are as persons, they are evaluated by their body shapes and bodily exposures.
The subject of sexual objectification is somewhat like the adage: “We see things not as they are, but as we are.” Sexual objectification is instinctively in the eye of the male, unless he suppresses it by diverting his eyes and thoughts away from the visual scenery. Many female and male writers have written extensively on this subject from their personal points of view. We take the view of moral males who do not want to evaluate women according to their sexual display. In fact, they are offended and feel harassed by those females who naively or knowingly make themselves sex objects, thereby inviting sexual objectification.
Our concern is about all those places where males who desire otherwise are forced to see sexy females to their own personal detriment. These possibilities exist in every media form and in all publicly available places where women’s bodies are being exposed, evaluated, and judged, such as beauty contests like Miss Universe, Miss World, Miss International, and Miss Earth. Also, on the local level there is the Best Bikini Competition. While those who would rather not see too much female flesh publicly exposed would not go to such events, the media covers such happenings as they are interspersed amidst the news….
When sexual objectification occurs, females are identified by their body parts or sexual function and therefore lose their identity of body, mind, and soul/spirit. Sexy-looking females then provide visual enjoyment to indulgers as sex objects. Females baring their body parts are inviting sexual objectification to their own undoing. The more females provocatively expose their individual body parts, the less males will see them as whole persons with various virtuous, compassionate, and intellectual qualities that a male can admire and appreciate. The moral males who are harassed by sexual display are opposed to the degrading of females into the status of objects, simply or primarily designed for sexual pleasure. On the other hand, indulgers freely and frequently objectify females and degrade them in the process.
“Feminist Perspectives on Objectification” is a comprehensive publication, maintained by Stanford University, on the various feminist views on the subject of sexual objectification. The beginning of the paper says, “Objectification is a notion central to feminist theory. It can be roughly defined as the seeing and/or treating a person, usually a woman, as an object.” Following this introductory statement is a list of ten features “that are involved in the idea of treating a person as an object.” Two of the features are: “reduction to body: the treatment of a person as identified with their body, or body parts” and “reduction to appearance: the treatment of a person primarily in terms of how they look, or how they appear to the senses.”8
The statement that follows the list of features is an essential ingredient regarding how different people view sexual objectification:
The majority of the thinkers discussing objectification have taken it to be a morally problematic phenomenon. This is particularly the case in feminist discussions of pornography.9 (Emphasis added.)
Because of their many objections to sexual objectification we name those feminists “moral feminists” in this regard.
Contrary to moral feminist concerns regarding sexual objectification, one section of the paper considers “the possibility of positive objectification” and says, “A number of thinkers, however, have challenged the idea that objectification is always morally problematic.” These feminists claim that it is wrong to “anthropomorphize humans and consider them more than they are.” Such feminists contend that: “In the case of pornography, then, there is nothing wrong… with treating pornographic actors and models as objects for sexual pleasure and deny their humanity.”10
We contend that it is morally wrong for those few feminists to justify the sexual objectification of females, particularly when they give strong approval to females selling their bodies as prostitutes and/or for male pornographic pleasure. Pornography has ruined many males and their families by ramping up the lust for sexual gratification. Such behavior only pushes sexual objectification of females, which demeans the female gender and harasses males who are morally offended.
The American Psychological Association Task Force on Sexualization clearly states:
Virtually every media form studied provides ample evidence of the sexualization of women, including television, music videos, music lyrics, movies, magazines, sports media, video games, the Internet and advertising.11 …
Highly successful role models for setting a high sexual objectification standard are those who achieve great popularity by the public display of their sexy bodies. Such individuals have set a high sexual objectification standard that has amplified the desires of females of all ages to follow. A prime example of this is Kathy Ireland, who “is a devout Christian.” According to Wikipedia:
Ireland was a supermodel in the 1980s and 1990s, best known for appearing in 13 consecutive Sports Illustrated swimsuit issues. In 1993, she founded a brand marketing company, kathy ireland Worldwide (kiWW), which has made her one of the wealthiest former models in the world. As a result of her career as a businesswoman, she had made a $420 million personal fortune by 2015…. During Sports Illustrated swimsuit’s 50th Anniversary event, Ireland’s 1989 cover was awarded “The Greatest Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Cover Of All Time” by its publisher.12
Ireland is to be complimented for her business acumen in achieving what she has accomplished. However, absent displaying her mostly unclad sexy body in 13 consecutive issues of Sports Illustrated, would she have become “one of the wealthiest former models in the world”? The lessons that many will learn from Ireland and other such females by their erotic modeling is that such bodily presence is to be admired and emulated as a means to attain popularity and possible fame and financial gain.
The moral females, including the moral feminists described earlier, would be critical of such displays that underscore the sexual objectification of females. The moral males we represent would be harassed wherever they may accidentally be confronted with such images in the media. While moral males can avoid purchasing Sports Illustrated, Ireland and other such erotic females are boldly within view through the media. Such provocative images may be difficult to avoid. Ireland and others like her promote the sexualization that is loved by the indulgers and resisted by the moral males. Moral males do not wish to compromise their integrity by looking at beckoning, bosomy babes like Ireland and others. They are harassed by such females who, like the Sirens of Greek mythology, lure males away from moral convictions and further promote the sexual objectification of their gender.
Sexualization is Pervasive
Everywhere a male turns, he is confronted with the sexualization of females, which can lead to the objectification of all females. The indulger enjoys all the visual food he can see to feed his sexual appetite, but the moral man must willfully resist taking it in. Therefore, he is being harassed by females revealing themselves in provocative ways that invite sexual objectification. Females should be offended as well, but instead, many join the ranks by following sexy fashion fads.
In summary, whenever females present themselves as sexy, they are objectifying themselves. When they compare their sexy parts with those of other women, they are also objectifying themselves and thereby reducing themselves to their parts. Some females capitalize on the sexual objectification as they find power in their sexual appeal. But the moral females, who want to be known for who they are, do not want to be reduced to their sexually appealing body parts. They would be aghast to think they are objectifying themselves for the sexual appetite of the indulgers and for the harassment of moral males, when they are just trying to look fashionably sexy. The offending women need to recognize and memorize these considerations and, thereby, syncretize what they wear with the results in the brains and bodies of males….
Sexual Harm Against Minors (By Women) Exposed
This S.H.A.M.E! acronym is the same as the title of this book, but here it stands for Sexual Harm Against Minors (By Women) Exposed. The definition we use for the verb harm is “have an adverse effect on,”13 where harm is inflicted on minors (girls and boys) in their development of identity, sexuality, and subsequent behavior. Minors are persons who are not yet adults. This includes both girls and boys. We use By Women to denote adult females. We will expose how this sexual harm against minors originates with women (adults) and results in sexual harm against both girls and boys.
During formative years attitudes towards identity and sexuality are being developed, particularly during their adolescence, when bodily and emotional feelings are being stimulated. Again, whether adjective, verb, or noun, the terms sexual, sexy, sexualize, and sexualization are usually pejorative when they are used to describe their use in revealing the media’s ubiquitous and eventual influence on women and their subsequent influence on girls and boys. Here we emphasize the harm that women can inflict upon girls and boys simply by the way they dress.
Sexual harm against girls occurs when women (adults) sexualize them by setting themselves up as sexy examples to follow and also dressing them sexy as they grow up. Not only does a sexy-body image influence girls’ attitudes about personal identity, but the sexy-body examples make them prone to sexually objectify themselves and thus be sexually objectified by men and boys. Girls are being set up to become sexualized as they grow up and sexually objectified by men and boys, as a result of sexy women in their environment (including mothers who strive to look young and sexy).
The sexy women are both harming and harassing the adolescent boys. They are harming them in the development of their attitudes towards SEX and the sexual objectification of females. They are directly harassing the adolescent boys with their own bodies and indirectly harassing them by setting a sexy example that girls emulate, which then adds to the harassing sexual exposure. The boys see many sexy girls, which prompts the same sexual response as men experience in response to sexy females. As testosterone fills the bodies of adolescent boys, they will become more and more aware of sexy breasts, buttocks, legs, and much skin showing on both women and girls.
The harm-harassment cycle feeds itself. All it needs is a few influential sexy females to get the cycle going. The girls follow the sexy-body examples of women and, in turn, harass the boys with their own sexy bodies. The girls sexually objectify themselves, present themselves as sex objects and are then sexually objectified by the boys. Many grow into adulthood with impaired attitudes about sexuality. This cycle of sexual harm is presently spinning at hypersonic speed. Will it ever stop? Who can put on the brakes?….
Sexual Harm Against Girls
Girls are growing up in an environment in which women are being sexualized and sexualizing themselves through provocative dress and are thereby being sexually objectified. In this kind of overly sexualized milieu girls will imitate sexually provocative dress from an innocent, naïve position just because they naturally want to look nice. Adolescent girls are highly vulnerable to becoming sexualized and thereby sexually objectified, both in their teens and as they grow into adulthood….
Sexual Harm and Harassment Against Boys
Beginning in puberty and into adulthood the boy’s brain is strongly sex ready. Images of breasts, buttocks, legs, and other female body parts normally capture male attention, and, for boys, this new attraction can increasingly come into focus until it occupies the center of their thinking. By the time a boy reaches high school, his testosterone has soared. Sex and body parts have been biologically pushed to the front of his awareness. By then girls’ body parts have developed such that these boys may even feel embarrassed about their interest in and even fixation on them. The boys, as well as the men, must exercise thought suppression to overcome the biological distraction caused by these sexy girls….
Sexual Harm Against Girls and Boys Ended
One powerful place to stop the sexualization of girls is the home. In spite of heavy peer pressure, parents can still influence their children. Both mothers and fathers can choose to model behavior that will help their girls resist becoming sexualized and thereby objectified. What mothers and fathers teach along the way, in addition to purposeful conversation, can be extremely important. For instance, when they are in view of females dressed provocatively, the parents can make a brief remark to discourage their daughter from emulating such dress, possibly by mentioning how the female is reducing herself into a sexual object and drawing the wrong kind of attention….
Parents need to become involved. They need to educate their children themselves about sex and not leave it up to the schools and the media. The director of Culture Bound, an organization designed for “Building Resistance to Hypersexualized Media & Porn” in children through parental involvement, reveals: “Pornography has become the major form of sex ed for children.”14
Parents need to think about what they are doing and saying and what they need to do and say to save their children from the bondage of an overly sexualized culture. A question for sexy mothers of America: When you dress your daughters sexy, why are you surprised when boys are after them for SEX? A question for the fathers of America: Do you remember growing up and having thoughts about SEX when seeing sexy girls? Fathers need to man up to the need to accept their responsibility to help their girls refrain from sexualizing themselves in this overly sexualized culture. Fathers also need to help their sons through their moral example and through important conversations about sexuality….
Our culture is loaded with women and girls who have been sexualized and are therefore objectified as walking provocateurs that sexually stimulate boys, because their pre-adult testosterone levels automatically, spontaneously, and even unconsciously respond to voluptuous, sexy females (girls and adult women). By dressing modestly, the very women who are now harassing men and boys can leave the breeding grounds of sexualization from which the sexualization of girls originates.
Former perpetrators of this sexualization of girls can make a big difference: by changing their own dress. By dressing modestly, they could help girls resist being sexualized by what they wear and thereby reduce the possibility of being sexually objectified by men and boys. Along with parents who care about their children, nicely, but modestly dressed women can contribute much to end this horrendous harm to girls and boys.
Sexual Objectification of Females Ended!
We encourage the moral males, moral females, and moral feminists to give us support for our modest effort to reach the mammoth goal of reversing the tidal wave of sexual objectification and lust fed by erotic-looking females. The sexual harassment of males by females will be difficult to change and will never fully disappear, but change can be partially accomplished by one female at a time. This is a moral battle between the moral males, moral females, and moral feminists on one side and sexy females, who are supported by the entire network of every media form used to promote the sexual objectification of females on the other side.
Although this book is written for the general public, biblical principles of sexuality and modesty underly its premise and conclusions. We pray that it will be a wake-up call to all readers and a reminder to all women to set a modest example.
1 This article is excerpted from: Martin & Deidre Bobgan. S.H.A.M.E! Sexual Harassment Against Males(By Females) Exposed! Santa Barbara, CA: EastGate Publishers, 2020, available at amazon.com.
2 The word males refers to men and boys.
3 The word females refers to women and girls.
4 Stephanie Pappas, “Brain Sees Men as Whole, Women as Parts,” LiveScience, July 24, 2012, https://www.livescience.com/21806-brain-male-female-objectification.html.
5 Janice Loreck, “Explainer: what does the ‘male gaze’ mean, and what about a female gaze?” The Conversation, https://theconversation.com.
6 “Sexualize,” Google Dictionary from Oxford Dictionary, https://www.google.com.
7 “Sexualization,” Cambridge Dictionary, https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/sexualization.
8 Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy, “Feminist Perspectives on Objectification,” Revised Version, 12/16/2019, https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/feminism-objectification/.
11 American Psychological Association, “Report of the APA Task Force on the Sexualization of Girls,” https://www.apa.org/pi/ women/programs/girls/report.
12 “Kathy Ireland,” Wikipedia, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ Kathy_Ireland, 07-17-2020.
13 “Harm,” Oxford Dictionary, https://www.lexico.com/en/definition/harm.
14 “What You Need to Know About Kids & Porn: Culture Reframed,” https://www.culturereframed.org.